How far should you go?

Let's be honest, we all have that one person that we cling to and believe that we can't let go but the question has become more prominent. How far should you go? I believed in the idea of never giving up on someone but until I entered my stage of breaking I came to the conclusion that sometimes even though attached you have to let them go. I started losing myself in trying to fix whatever was wrong and trying to keep this person by my side but with the number of issues that continued to pile up and when one starts walking away it will fail because there are two in a relationship and to communicate and make things work. I learned this the hard way. In giving advice after this experience, I'll now say try as hard as you can but don't lose yourself because finding who you are again or if you didn't know before will make the love you have for yourself develop into hate or push you down a path that will take a while to recover from.

Although I had people around me telling me what was best for me. In these situations, you will want to believe in yourself because you think you know how far you can go or how much you know this person and others don't. Whatever side of a person you know can always change and the people around you telling you what you should do, not saying that you should listen but don't completely disregard the fact that they are just stating their opinions but as I said only you know what's best for you and you know what sometimes you probably won't. I'm no relationship/friendship expert because I think I suck but the idea that two exist within this connection should always be remembered. 

Being attached to someone is one thing but not knowing how far you should go to control it is another. Take it this way, you can love someone and be attached but know your limits because you know how to protect yourself or believe you know how to protect yourself (basically what's best for you/you respect yourself enough) but look at it also that if you are completely head over heels for someone and devote your whole being to them leaving nothing for yourself how will you manage if this person leaves. No matter how hard you try to make them happy, they stay if they want to stay. You can't force them unless you're rich, I'm kidding, not even money holds them anymore. Even if you love them and feel that you can't leave them. 

If you have to downplay yourself all the time to make them happy, leave their ass, cut it, and move on. It hurts like hell and you'll want to go back but trust the tale of a girl that was heartbroken never lose yourself to a man or any person that drags you down. In closing, this is just my opinion. You might agree, you might not. You know what's best for you or well at least you do. I hope you do. 



Written by Alyssa Chin
Photo Credits (Pinky Jangra)




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